Eva Mendes is questioning her identity as her children with Ryan Gosling grow older. Mendes chose to step away from acting to focus on raising her children.

Eva Mendes got real about some of the changes she’s experienced in her parenting journey over the years. During an appearance Thursday on “The Drew Barrymore Show,” Mendes explained that she felt a sense of clarity as a parent when her children were very young but that she “felt lost” as they got older.

Eva Mendes revealed that as her and Ryan Gosling’s daughters Esmeralda Amada, 10, and Amada Lee, 8, have gotten older, she’s had to deal with the fact that they don’t need her all the time anymore.